Jason Derulo Says He & Jordin Sparks Split Due to Pressure to Get Married
Tue, 30 Sep 2014 11:46:00
"Talk Dirty To Me" singer Jason Derulo and Jordin Sparks split after three years of dating, and while there have been rumors that it was amicable, it turns out the relationship may have crumbled due to marriage pressures and they are both dealing with the pain.
Derulo spoke to Ryan Seacrest on The 'Crest's radio show, offering some details about the breakup.
Derulo said, "I'm not one to throw my business out on the street, but I thought it was important because things are getting a little out of hand. What happened… in a nutshell, there was a lot of tension in the relationship for a lot of different reasons. There was a lot of pressures of marriage. There was a lot of arguing and stuff like that that just weighed on our relationship over time. When you stop having more good times than bad times, it's time to call it quits. It becomes something that is unhealthy."
Sparks wanted to deepen their commitment with marriage, but Derulo wasn't ready for that.
That's interesting, since his song "Marry Me" was written for Sparks. For now, that song and their duet, dubbed "Vertigo," have been removed from his live shows and performances, which is understandable.
He said, "To be fair, it was not just from her either. It was kind of from everybody. That's not the sole reason, but it definitely played a part…We think it may have weighed on her more than it weighed on me. Yeah, she got frustrated a lot. She was in that frustrated space a lot and I think part of that was part of my problem."
About yanking the songs from his set list for now, Derulo said, "I think it will be tough to perform a lot of different songs. That was a huge time in my life. It doesn't go away. Those times in my life when I felt like that, I really did feel like that."
Again, that makes sense. He is going through a breakup, which means heartache, and those songs may be too painful to perform at this time. We get it and we support him.
Derulo also said, "I think sometimes you can be in a relationship so long, it becomes a part of your life and you feel like you're obligated. And when you start feeling obligated and you start feeling like it's something you have to do because it's necessary, like breathing, that's not a good situation either. It should be something different."
He also confessed that he and Sparks are not on "good" terms right now, since the split caused a fresh, new wound, which is to be expected. They are not on bad terms, either. They are…navigating a split.
Breaking up after years of dating is a hard thing to adjust to and it's not like each person that was in the relationship can just revert to being friends right after. That takes time, as well.
Derulo further said, "I wouldn't say good terms. I'll be lying if I said that, but its not a bad situation. There's no bad blood. We didn't end off on a weird way or a negative way. It's not like we're hitting each other up, like, 'Hey, what are you doing today?'"
Again, that's normal.
Who should Jason Derulo date next? Or should he go it alone and stay solo and single for a bit to let his heart (and hers) heal?